Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Things I Wish I had Known When I Was Younger


It occurred to me recently that I probably have more years behind me than I do ahead of me. Being 44 years-old means I'm just a little over the halfway mark if I'm fortunate enough to live until at least eighty. Not waxin' philosophical or anything, but that makes a gal a bit contemplative. At the very least, reflective.

I started thinking about how I lived the first half of my life, and I asked myself, am I happy with the choices I've made? Would I do anything differently? I'd like to be smug and say no, I am fine with all my choices, but that would be a lie. I wish older me could have spoken to younger me, and this is what I would have told her.

I wish I had spent half as much energy on my studies as I did on boys. I was smart and not a bad student, but I only gave my books a cursory glance and spent more hours making sure my makeup was perfect than getting the perfect grade. What would I be doing now, had I studied harder?

I would have gone to college before starting a family. Your looks fade. Men leave you, or you leave them. Children grow up and move away. Your education is yours to own forever.  I wish someone had said to me that my marriage might not work out, and I would need a good job to support my girls. Had I gotten my degree earlier, we might have done better financially. Instead, we struggled. Don't be in a hurry to marry and have kids. You have your whole life to do that.

I would have not have gotten married until at least 30. I remember someone saying that picking a husband at 18 is like asking a kid what they want to be when they grow up and holding them to what they say.  My older daughter wanted to be a cafeteria lady, and my younger one wanted to be a taxi driver.  Neither one picked those career paths.  You have no idea the person you will become when you are eighteen. Choosing a husband then, when you don't even know who you are, is a recipe for disaster. I apologize to my children for putting them through a divorce. It wasn't fair that they suffered, but I'm grateful they still grew up to be amazing women despite it all.

If I had spent more time learning and growing as a person, I would have made more informed choices. I was so concerned with being a good wife and mother that I had no idea who I was. When I finally realized what I wanted out of life, a lot of folks were hurt. Maybe if I had taken time to know who I was, I would have screwed up less. You will make lots of choices, I would say to myself. Make damn sure you don't make the wrong ones.

I would have developed good self-esteem. This probably should have been number one. Poor self-esteem made me do stupid things like marrying a guy simply because he told me he loved me. My self-esteem was so low, I allowed him to verbally abuse me for six years before I finally learned to love myself and leave the relationship. When you love yourself, you attract people who will love you too. Self-esteem is worth more than gold - you will take it with you to the grave.

I wish I had taken better care of my skin. I don't have horrible skin, but I should have moisturized more and sunbathed less. How many nights did I forget to take my makeup off and slap some moisturizer on? When you're young and your skin is taut and smooth, you don't think of the damage you're doing, but trust me, you'll wish to god you had put on a hat and some sunscreen.

I wish I had never touched a cigarette. I've long since stopped smoking, but what did I do to my body? I see the lines around my mouth, and I know what put them there. I know that I put a tiny burning stick ahead of the love I have for my family. I'm ashamed that I loved that stick more than staying alive for them. How selfish I was. What they say is true: You'll never regret stopping, but you'll always regret starting.

I would have been more careful to whom I gave my heart...and my body.  There were men in my life who should never have gotten to bag my groceries, much less touch my body. If I had spent more time growing as a person and developing my self-esteem, I would have saved myself hours of crying and years of heartache. I wish I could tell young me that a wonderful man would come into my life if only I'm patient. Don't settle for a loser.


Amanda Z
Domesticology

Monday, January 12, 2015

Let's Make Wine!


Julie W is a fellow blogger and all around neat lady. She also makes fantastic wine, which as we all know is like being able to control the stars. It's just that awesome. Julie was kind enough to share step-by-step instructions! I'm ready to make (drink) my first batch.

Definitely check out her blog!  Thanks Julie!

From Julie W - How to Make Wine

I am flattered and honored that Amanda Z. has asked me to guest post on her blog about my adventures in wine making at home.

I jokingly tell people that it’s in my DNA, since I am a fourth generation wine maker. I have many childhood memories of my dad making wine from every- and anything he could get his hands on, except grapes.  My grandfather also made wine (I want to say it was a fig wine that knocked him on his butt, ha ha), and his father, who came over from Sicily went back to Sicily and started a winery. With all that history, how can I go wrong, right?

Seriously, though, making wine at home isn’t rocket science, but it IS science. It’s just disguised as fun and alcohol. There’s a little math involved, as well as chemistry, and if you are anything like me, you’ll want to keep a calculator handy, as well as a notebook to jot down your notes and what you did during the process so that you will know what you did right (and maybe not so right) and refer back to it the next time you make a batch.

My husband and I planted a couple of muscadine grapevines in the back yard last spring; one white and one black, and last fall planted three noble vines. We are lucky in that we are friendly with the owner of the nursery around the corner and were gifted with enough grapes last fall to be able to make two five-gallon batches of red.

As I mentioned above, you can make wine out of just about anything. My kid sister and I spent an afternoon picking yellow dandelion flowers at a local park when we were little. We filled a couple paper grocery bags and Dad made wine. He also did apricot, peach, apple, and even wheat one year, though that didn't turn out too well, LOL.

Of course, there are items that you are going to need to have as the basics to make wine, but you can go as low-brow as you want, or as expensive as you like. We received a wine-making kit from my dad for my birthday last summer and it came with all the basics and then some, which was nice, but there are items in the kit that we have yet to use, and I just racked our third batch of wine yesterday, after having bottled the first batch before Christmas.

For the basics you will need the following items:

A bucket, size appropriate for the amount of wine you are going to make, with a lid (we found that a three gallon food-grade bucket picked up at the farm supply store worked beautifully for our 2 gallon batch of mead);
A strainer bag if you are going to be using fruit, pulp and/or skins in your wine;
A long handled spoon, preferably plastic;
A hydrometer;
An acid test kit;
A graduated cylinder (this could be called optional by many, but I found it so much easier to take specific gravity readings in a cylinder);
Something to sterilize your equipment. We use a no-rinse sterilizer powder that we dilute in warm water;
A (preferably glass) container as a secondary fermenter. This can be as small as a gallon or as big as you like;
An air lock;
An appropriately sized bung (stop laughing, this is just a rubber cork with a hole down the center for your airlock to fit into, which, I suppose, could be referred to as the,  uhhhh, bung hole);
Rubber tubing for siphoning into test cylinder, secondary fermenter, bottles;
Wine bottles (figure about five 750 ml bottles for each gallon of wine) or you can simply use whatever screw top bottles you have on hand – just be sure to sterilize them before you use them;
Corks if you aren’t using screw tops;
Bottle brush.

Basic ingredients needed to get you started and keep you going:

Campden tablets;
Acid blend powder (or appropriate amount of acid your recipe calls for);
Yeast nutrient;
Yeast;
Pectic enzyme;
Water (we use bottled spring water because our tap water can taste funny at times);
X pounds of whatever you are going to make your wine out of;
Sugar;
There are also wine kits that come with specific juices for the types of wine that you want to make. These can be a little spendy, but if it’s the dead of winter and you can’t get your hands on good, fresh fruit or grapes, these could save the day. (Oftentimes, these kits come with all the chemicals & additives you will need, plus instructions, so this may well be a great way to try your hand at homemade wine.)

Little extras that will make your wine making easier (and even a little less sloppy):

A wine thief;
An auto-siphon with appropriate sized rubber tubing;
A wine corker, especially if you plan on using corks;
Labels;
Shrink capsules for your corked bottles – for vanity purposes.

You may have a wine supply store near you, or, if you are like us, we initially purchased our kit online, and ordered the chemicals, yeast, nutrient, etc. online until we found our local (okay, it’s about 45 minutes from home) dealer.

There are many recipes online for wine if you don’t have a recipe book, but the first step is to pick one and stick as close to it as you can. There will be those times where you know something needs to be sweetened, or diluted, and you can make adjustments as you go, but do take notes.

What follows is just a general guide of the steps that are taken to produce a good to awesome batch of grape wine (mead is done a little differently). Our first batch was made of noble grapes, which created a nice, dry, full-bodied red.

Sterilize/sanitize EVERYTHING that you plan on using that will come into contact with your fruit/must/wine!

Wash your fruit, remove stems and toss any rotten or bruised fruit, and crush your grapes. I used a plastic potato masher in a large plastic bowl and when the fruit in the bowl was smashed and juicy, I poured the contents into the strainer bag, which was already placed in our primary fermentation bucket. You will want to figure about six or so pounds of grapes per gallon.

Extract some of the juice and test the acid level. This is where your acid test kit comes in handy. Follow the instructions that come with it to see what your acid level is. You are going to want to ensure your juice is .65% tartaric. Your test kit will tell you how much of what to add to your juice to raise or lower your numbers. Also, there is math involved here. You may be adding water or you may be adding acid blend, or you may get lucky out of the gate and not have to add anything.

Once your acid level is where it needs to be, you will be adding sugar until your specific gravity ends up between 1.095 and 1.100. A great video on how to read your hydrometer can be found at http://youtu.be/ty7PAJaBsts and it really cleared things up for me. Once you get your specific gravity within range, write it down. You will need it again when you bottle to calculate your approximate alcohol content.

At this point, our recipe had us add everything except the yeast to our must (which is what it’s called). In our case we added Pectic Enzyme, yeast nutrient and campden tablets that we crushed. Give it a good stir, cover it loosely with the lid and just walk away.

After 24 hours add your yeast. We use wine yeast, and while some recipes tell you that you can just toss the dry yeast in, I prefer to activate mine and then make a yeast starter. Basically you follow the instructions on the yeast packet to activate it, noting how much water you used. Give the yeast no more than 30 minutes to activate. Pull an equal amount of must out of your bucket and add to the yeast & water, give a little stir and it should foam up and double to triple in volume. At this point, pour the mixture as evenly as you can over the must in the bucket. Cover and walk away.

Stir daily, checking specific gravity. This is where having a wine thief and a graduated cylinder come in handy. When you SG (specific gravity) reaches 1.030 (about five days) you can remove the straining bag, gently draining the juice out of it. Discard the contents in the straining bag.

The next step is called “racking” and this is when you siphon the wine off the sediment from the bucket into your secondary fermentation container. We use glass carboys. An auto-siphon is an awesome thing to use for this.  Once you have siphoned your wine into the secondary, attach your airlock. This allows air from getting into the fermenter, but lets the wine continue to ferment and the gas has somewhere to go. You’ll know it’s working because you’ll see the water in the airlock bubble as the gas comes up through the tube.

When the SG reaches 1.00 (about three or so weeks), siphon again and re-rack into a clean secondary. What we did, because we only had one appropriately sized glass carboy was sanitized the primary fermentation bucket, siphoned the wine into it, then washed and sanitized (after pouring out the sediment, or lees) the carboy and re-siphoned it back into the carboy and re-attached the airlock.

After this you pretty much walk away and forget it. You may choose to re-rack in two months to aid in clearing, but that is basically all you do to make the wine.

We bottled our first batch early, because of Christmas, but it could have stayed racked for another month or so. Every now and then, taste test it. The longer it sits in the secondary fermenter, the better it will taste.

As for bottling, there are numerous videos out there that will show you the process a whole lot better than I can try to explain it.

I have pictures of  the red wine and mead processes over on my blog, www.musingsfromaworkaholic.com, as well as the notes that we took/are taking during our second and third batches.

A huge thank you to Amanda Z. for allowing me to invade her blog.




No, thank YOU Julie!

Drunkenly,
Amanda Z
Domesticology

Sunday, January 11, 2015

6 New Diseases Only Parents of Young Children Contract!!!



It's been awhile since I have had small children in the house. Twenty years, to be exact. It's an exciting time, but frankly, I'm a hell of a lot older and more achy now. I think my baby disease resistance is probably low.  That's because no matter our age, we parents of little ankle biters get strange diseases that don't tend to infect anyone else. I'm sure you're aware of the preschool plague and good old rhino-viruses, but I bet you haven't thought of these little infectious nuggets which make you wonder, just how safe is parenthood for your health?




Kid Toy Music Psychosis
Do you have a toy in your house which plays a song that makes your teeth hurt and your butt ache? Yeah, we do too. We have a musical cube that's designed to teach shapes, and we're pretty sure it's possessed by Satan.  If you walk by it, the music starts playing. If you don't walk by it, the music starts playing.  The songs are sung by this creepy kid's band, and it always comes on in the dead of night when it's pitch dark and you're sure a masked marauder is in your playroom. The best is when Creepy Cube and fourteen other musical toys come on at the same time - all playing different songs- all making  you twitch. Let the psychosis begin!

Involuntary Insomnia
Everyone tells you to sleep when your baby sleeps, and maybe in a Utopian kind of existence, that happens. In real life, however, your baby sleeps peacefully and you stare at the ceiling. You lie there thinking of every single bad thing that could happen to your happily sleeping infant. Is that smoke I smell? Did he just poop? What if I never lose my baby weight? You truly want to sleep, since you've been up since 5 am, and your're not really sure what your name is and if you've actually showered today (this week). The beauty of involuntary insomnia is that you're going to be able to sleep soon...right when the baby wakes up.


Foot & Ouch Disease
This one is self-explanatory. I can walk through an immaculately clean room with one small baby toy hidden from my line of view. It doesn't matter how clean the room is. If there is one toy, I will step on it, and so will you, parents. It's like our feet have painful toy radar and we seek out that Devil toy like a heat seeking missile. How can they be so painful if they are designed for children? Shouldn't they be soft and safe? My feet say no.

Hip Displacement
My hips have taken on a permanent shift to the right. I look like I've done a whole lot of salsa dancing and gotten my hip stuck in the "out" position when in fact, I've just done a whole lot of baby carrying.  Truth: Babies are heavy. More Truth: Babies like to be carried. If you have a big old 22-pounder like I do, your hip(s) will feel the pain.  This condition rapidly intensifies when your baby realizes that being carried is awesome and being on the floor sucks.   You can try one of those baby-wearing things, but carrying him on my back would probably make me fall out on the floor. I say, let him carry mommy! Win!

Mama Stink
Oh lord, when this disease hit, I was more surprised than anyone...and trust me, no one was surprised more than me. Folks smelled me coming a mile away. They knew I had contracted the "funk." Don't be ashamed. We've all had it. Apparently, you're supposed to shower, as well as sleep, when baby is napping.  Unless you can alter the fabric of time, you can't do everything while baby is sleeping. You have to prioritize, and sometimes, a shower doesn't make the list of to-dos. Besides, if you're going to be sick with the funk, grab those slightly grubby yoga pants from the bathroom floor and convalesce. It's not like you were going to workout in them!

The Frozen Funk
This one sneaks up on you.  One minute you're innocently watching this cute Disney movie, and the next one you're twirling around the room singing "Let it goooooooooooooo!" It's not just the impromptu song and dance shows you put on for your family (and anyone else who sees you singing at the traffic light), it's the proliferation of Frozen into every single aspect of your life.  I have asked perfect strangers, "do you want to build a snowman." Tis true. Do you know how many Elsa's I had on Halloween? Twenty-seven! I wanted to take a shot of tequila every time we had one, but I would have been in a coma by 7pm. The only cure for this disease is for Disney to come out with another blockbuster...which they will, and it too will infect you. Once you're a parent, you get the Disney Funk bad, and there ain't no cure.

Stay strong parents! Your parental health will improve...at least until you have teenagers.

Amanda Z
Domesticology


Thursday, January 8, 2015

Tip 5 - Are You A Super Shopper?


Today's blog is part five of our 10-part series on saving at least $1000 (or more) this year with very little pain on your part. Most of the tips will be easy and won't disrupt your routine!


I just read an article that says in select markets, Whole Foods will be trying a customer rewards program to, well, reward their customers for shopping there. Forgive me, but I'm going to laugh a little. Okay, I'm going to laugh a lot.  If you're trying to be frugal, Whole Paycheck is not where you need to shop. Sure you can find that rare organic cream made from a grass-fed, hormone-free cow which has had its milk churned daily by a Belgian nun that you absolutely need to make the perfect hollandaise sauce, but you'll have to give a kidney to the cashier to pay for it.  The plus side is all your friends will see your super cool WF's bag and know that you care about the...uhhhh planet and stuff, so it is tots worth it!

While going to overpriced stores is fun and trendy, your wallet won't be happy you went. The idea of saving money using customer rewards programs, however, is a good idea. Most of your large chains offer some kind of rewards program, and you can definitely benefit. Surprisingly, what I have found is that most folks aren't using the programs to their full potential. Most people get the reward card and swipe it at the register and that's about it. They hope something they bought qualifies for a discount, but they aren't sure.


So, how do you become a super shopper?
  • Most grocery stores offer a rewards program. Go to their website and register. They will email you the weekly specials and special offers that no one else sees each week. For example, Kroger emails me every Friday and offers a free item. I always get it. I may not even know I needed it, but I have found a use for everything I have gotten thus far. Let me repeat, you get a free item just for hitting a button on your computer. 
  • Once you're registered, many stores offer E-coupons which are manufacturers coupons that you can load directly onto your card.  Log in to your account and see what they have offered for the week. Load the ones you need and start saving!
  • Use coupons! I'll blog another day about the beauty of coupons, but if you have a paper coupon as well as an E-coupon, you can use them both and save even more. It's called stacking, and most stores (but not all) are fine with it.
  • Read the ads. See who has the best deals this week. Don't be a slave to a specific store. It doesn't always cost more to go to several stores. If it saves money, it's worth it.
  • Use the programs offered. Every store has their special deal to draw you in. Kroger once had a buy 5, get $5 off program. Read the specially marked tags and see the lowest price offered. I saved $15 last week on items I needed. Harris Teeter often does a great buy 2, get 3 free sale. If you have a coupon to use with that promotion, it's a double score. 
  • Do not impulse buy. If it's not on sale or offered at a very good price, pick something else. Most of your regular prices are way too much. 
  • Utilize discount stores. I cannot stress this enough, and it will be the topic of another blog. Go to Big Lots, Dollar General, Aldi, etc. It's amazing the savings you can find at those places! I found jars of baby food for .30/jar at Big Lots. That's 50% off the grocery store price. I make a lot of my baby food, but I use pre-made food as well.


I save about 30% on my grocery bill each time I shop. That tallies up to a lot of dough - which I can't swear is GMO and gluten free dough made by fairies in factories in Peoria. Although, I'm pretty sure Whole Foods might carry it.


Frugally,
Amanda Z
Domesticology

AmandaZ is the (mature) stay-at-home mom of Pork Chop, Southern gal, thrifty bad a$$ and writer of Domesticology101.com. This blog tackles all things domestic - from child rearing to cooking and home improvement to frugality. All done with a touch of humor and common sense. This is definitely not your mama's home economics site!

Wednesday, January 7, 2015

Check out these one-pot 30 minute meals!


Whether you work out of the home or in the home, most of us are strapped for time. What time we do have is best spent with our family and not slaving over a hot stove or washing dishes. I'm all about easy. My husband said he is too, and that's why he married me. (badda bing!)

Click this link below and get the recipes for some really tasty meals that take one pot  and about 30 minutes to make!





Save the Fruit!


I think it's safe to say we have established food must never be thrown away, unless it's blue and fuzzy, of course. No one wants to spend a few quality hours with their toilet, so if it's not safe to eat, trash it. This creates an issue for me, however, as I love to buy fruit. I enjoy seeing it sit prettily in my fruit basket on the counter. I then watch it turn brown, because I don't eat it fast enough. I guess that makes me a fruit mass murderer. Guilty as charged.

I decided, no more! I would not let beautiful fruit die in the bowl and be sent to that big dumpster in the sky. I would learn to use my fruit, even if I don't eat it fresh. That's where today's blog comes in.

Saving the Fruit

Over the Christmas holiday, I displayed some lovely apples on a three-tiered glass fruit tray that has been in my family for at least fifty years. It sat in the middle of my mother's table, and I'm honored to carry on her tradition year after year. I simply love it. After the holiday was over, however, I noticed my fruit  was looking a little sad. Apples a bit past their peak freshness are perfect for making applesauce, so I whipped out ye ole crock-pot and started peeling and coring them.


Next, I put the apples into my crock pot and added about 1/4 cup of spiced apple cider from Trader Joe's (TJ's has the best cider on the planet), and sprinkled liberally with cinnamon. As I've said, I adore cinnamon. If you aren't a fan, it's still tasty without adding so much. 



I cooked this on low heat for about 5 hours. You'll know when it's done, because the apples will turn to mush. Use a wooden or plastic spoon and gently stir your apples. I like mine a little lumpy, but you could let your cooked apples cool and puree in a food processor. The first night after cooking, we served this as a side for our New Year's Day supper. 

I had plenty left over, so a few days later, I made applesauce muffins. I used the recipe from Williams-Sonoma, and they were pretty tasty. See recipe here. My only complaint is that I would probably use brown sugar instead of white next time. I like a molasses taste in my apple muffins. I also substituted pecans in place of walnuts. They were quite yummy!


You can cut back on the cider and use water if you want to avoid added sugar and this makes a perfect homemade baby food. My little man adores cooked apples! 

Leave a comment below and tell us how you use your aging fruit!

Fondly,
Amanda Z
Domesticology



Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Tip 4 - Take Your Lunch to Work


Today's blog is part four of our 10-part series on saving at least $1000 (or more) this year with very little pain on your part. Most of the tips will be easy and won't disrupt your routine!


In my days as a professional workin' gal (no, not that kind), I would often enjoy the yummy offerings of the restaurants near my old office. There were no less than fifty-seven in a two-mile radius, and it was my goal to try them all.  Their call to me was more alluring than the sweetest siren's song, and anytime I left work, I was tempted by the succulent smells of roasting meat and burnt coffee. Oh, how good it smelled! How I drooled like Pavlov's dogs! Unfortunately, all that food costs money, and eating out burnt a hole in my wallet faster than the acids did in my esophagus. I was bleeding money, and it wasn't pretty.

Before I stopped working, I decided that hemorrhaging money for lunch was not the smartest idea. It was making my bank account smaller and my butt bigger. Never a good scenario. I realized that taking my lunch was a more economical and healthy alternative. I would be in control of fat and salt content, and I could pack an appropriately sized lunch and not eat the humongous offerings that restaurants give you. Who are they trying to feed anyway? Shaquille O'Neal? I'm a woman and 5'2". I don't need enough food to feed the Oakland Raiders.

I need the Number Ten with a Diet Coke...Right NOW!

I can hear what you're thinking: I don't have time to mess with this!

Yes, you do! Here's how!

  1. Make your lunch the night before. If you try to make it in the morning, you'll run late and say "To Hell with it. Chipotle is right across the street! Yeehaw!"
  2. Make use of leftovers. NO FOOD should ever be thrown away (see here), and leftovers make a perfect meal. Save yogurt, butter, deli meat, and ricotta packages, and you don't even have to buy plastic containers! Win!
  3. Buy a cute lunch bag to transport your food. You'll be stylish, and no one will dare open your bag in the office refrigerator and steal your lunch. Well, I don't think they would, anyway.
  4. Pre-cut veggies over the weekend, so you even have a snack to take with you on Monday - Friday. 
  5. When you shop for groceries, don't forget to plan a few meals for the days you don't have leftovers. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail (and you'll hit Jersey Mike's so fast, your head will spin). Think of meals you enjoy and buy the necessary ingredients.
  6. Check out what's on sale in the grocery store. I have found that a super deal on food is inspiration to make next week's lunch. For example, you see a rotisserie chicken reduced for quick sale. Buy it and make chicken salad.
  7. Search online for some easy and quick lunch ideas. Here is a good place to start:

The typical restaurant lunch costs anywhere from $8 - $12. That's an average of $50 a week. I know you can make your own lunch for at least half that amount, especially if you utilize leftovers and special deals.  If you save $25/week, that's $1300 a year in savings! That could pay for a cruise on the Fun Ship, and you might even fit into your bathing suit.

Stay frugal,
Amanda Z
Domesticology




AmandaZ is the (mature) stay-at-home mom of Pork Chop, Southern gal, thrifty bad a$$ and writer of Domesticology101.com. This blog tackles all things domestic - from child rearing to cooking and home improvement to frugality. All done with a touch of humor and common sense. This is definitely not your mama's home economics site!